Monday, 3 October 2011

Is it possible to belong everywhere and nowhere at the same time?


In the last nine years, I have lived in Walnut Creek, Santa Barbara, Vienna, Barcelona, San Francisco, Zurich, London, Berkeley and New York City. I have had numerous backpacking trips through South America, holidays in Asia and weekend trips to [insert European country here].

Having been forced outside my comfort zone on numerous occasions, I am super sensitive to culture differences and also have a better understanding of my own. Yet what is my culture?

I have friends all over the world. I can relate to multiple nationalities in a way that when I am interacting with them I never think you are this and I am that. My personality, many would also say my accent, just subconsciously adapts. Differences based on where someone is from are broken down and discarded so that I see an individual’s, not a cultural, trait. But I cannot never know all these differences. My understanding will always be imperfect; I will never fully understand another's culture.

Now back in California, I still feel like a foreigner. I don’t quite fit. It’s strange to have left, experienced and seen so many things, only to come back to a place just how you left it. My views, opinions, and desired way of life have all changed – I am no longer a typical ‘Californian’.

This summer in New York City  I met hundreds of colleagues at the company I was working for and I was the only Californian. Even though I was back to City life, which I am more accustomed to, I still didn’t fit nor could I see myself there.

And of course, outside the U.S., by definition alone – I am a foreigner.

So now the question arise; "Where am I not a foreigner?"

I have now realized – I don’t think there is one.

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